I had a dream last night that I went to the church for a wedding. Wedding indeed! I’d love it if I were to wed someone I love…But in my dream, I married a fellow with nothing extraordinary. Really! Don’t think that I’m fastidious. I am. You got me.

Seriously though, it’s very important for a person to marry someone you love, right? Or is it the other way around? Marrying someone who loves you more than you love him/ her? That’s the catch.

Me? I honestly thought marriage is too early for me. It takes lot of time to discern. First you have to be ready emotionally and more importantly financially. You should know each others likes and dislikes. Marriage carries heavy responsibilities and it needs maturity and fortitude. And of course, if the one you’re marrying is ready to marry you, right? That’s funny I know. But you have to consider things that will either make or break your decision. Marriage is like drinking hot coffee, you need to make sure first that you can swallow it. And you also need to know if it would cater to your taste. What if it’s too bitter? Or too sweet? Marriage is like that, you have to be certain if you’re geared up to it.

“Marriage provides fellowship, comfort, companionship and partnership It must not be a product of childish decision, misguided imitation, faithless conclusion or religious compulsion” (Matthew 19:10, Corinthians 7: 32, 34).

But the most essential thing is that God has guided us into the marriage itself after we pray and seek His will

LLOVE ENCHANTMENT

Sometimes when you love a person too much, you either drive yourself insane or you drive him out of your life. Well thank God that when I almost reached the brink of unhinged morale I realized how love really works. I now can say that too much of something is always bad, even worse. Loving someone more than you love yourself, I think is worst. But it made me tougher and stronger. I have always invested too much emotion on each romance I had. I thought loving is giving everything, submitting to the one you love and doing everything for him. I have always solicited attention and love for all of my life. And to earn that, I did everything for them. And I always overdo it. It’s very hilarious when I look back and saw myself doing those things.

I had a breakthrough when someone asked if I’m contented with what’s happening in my life at that moment. I assessed the question; I was actually classifying it to lots of aspects in my life. It was then that I realized that maybe she is pertaining to how I deal with my relationship.

You see, sometimes too much emotion or love blinds us. We see only good things that make us happy, we overlook more significant things. If you love someone, you always base it to feelings; how you feel when you’re with him or how he makes you feel good about yourself. But it should not be like that. And avoid mistaking love for physical attraction or for sexual attraction. It is more than that.

Loving someone would entail commitment, patience and honesty for the relationship to work. Now I realized that. It is give and take. It will never work one-way.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.” Corinthians 13:4-7

NEWFANGLED

I am very excited about my new blog. It took me months to publish this online. But hey, it’s worth it. It’s never too late for something new, something refreshing. Since time immemorial I’ve been making journals which I kept to myself thinking they would bore other people…But they were relief to my grievances and heart whimpers and they helped me through.

I believe that writing is emancipation. It’s like freeing your soul to harmonize with your whole personality. A lot would agree with me, I know. Having someone to read what you think about a certain matter is like sharing your ideas and urging them to come up with their own. It never stops. It’s like a disease; it would spread and eventually be treated with importance or with cynicism. Hence my love for writing liberates me to interact with the real world, full of life and skepticism.

I will be tackling different matters, with different perspectives. I will try to ferret out something out of something. I hope I will never tire of writing….